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People and schools I’ve learned from
Institute of Somatic Sexology – taught by Deej Juventin and Uma Ayelet Furman
Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education – taught by Caffyn Jesse & Dr. Liam “Captain” Snowdon
School of Consent – taught by Dr. Betty Martin
Urban Tantra Professional Training Program – taught by Barbara Carrellas
Somatic sex educators and other sexuality professionals whose work I admire, almost all of whom work online in addition to their in-person locations
Sasha Lasdon in Madison, WI
Ariel Szabo in Salem, MA
Juliana Rose in Brattleboro, VT
Katherine Yeagel, Surrogate Partner in Northampton, MA
JoJo DeRodrigo (JoJo Bear) in Albany, CA
Alex Morgan in Oakland/SF Bay Area, CA
Ro in Montreal, Quebec, Canada
Beck in Wigston, Leicestershire, UK
Lists of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers and Somatic Sex Educators
Boston Resources
Pleasure Pie’s list of Boston Area Sex Positive Resources including therapists
Pleasure Pie’s Boston Sex Positive Newsletter, my favorite local newsletter
Smut Slam, a monthly sexy (true) storytelling event in Somerville
Organizations and individuals who teach group workshops
Ashton Young in New Orleans, LA
EroSomatic Arts Collective (Under Construction)
Ship – Sexual Health Includes Pleasure in Providence, RI
Pleasure Pie in Boston, MA
Books I recommend without reservation – I may have reservations about some of the authors, but not the books
Science for Sexual Happiness: A Guide to Reclaiming Pleasure by Caffyn Jesse
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin
Pelvic Pain Clinic by Caffyn Jesse and Shauna Farabaugh
Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin
My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein
Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch by Caffyn Jesse
Healers on the Edge: Somatic Sex Education edited by Cassie Moore, Caffyn Jesse, and Mehdi Darvish Yahya
The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin
Opening Up:A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Urban Tantra, 2nd Edition by Barbara Carrellas
Books I recommend with caveats – these are not as queer/trans/BIPOC/disability inclusive as I wish they were but have valuable information
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (audience is cisgender women and people who have sex with cisgender women)
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sherri Winston (audience is cisgender women and people who have sex with cisgender women)
Coping with Premature Ejaculation by Barry W McCarthy and Michael E Metz (heteronormative)
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction by Barry W McCarthy and Michael E Metz (heteronormative)
Orgasmic Yoga by Martha Tara Lee (anti-porn; PornYoga.com is a useful counterpoint.)
Educational resources online
Sex Ed blogs, comics, and YouTubers that I feel aligned with
Dangerous Lilly especially the section on toxic sex toys
YouTube: UpperCaseChase
YouTube: Sexplanations with Dr. Lindsey Doe
Complementary professionals to whom I would refer you
My go-to acupuncturist has moved away from Boston, so I’ll add more here as I get familiar with new practitioners.
Enthusiastic, compassionate and incredibly nerdy with all things Massage, Evan (Constellation Bodywork in Arlington, MA) has been practicing the healing art of professional bodywork since 2010. Versed in Myofascial release, Trigger Point Therapy as well as Shiatsu and Injury-based Modalities, Evan utilizes a myriad of different techniques to create a well rounded mind-body connection that manifests into each session
Pelvic Floor Occupational Therapist Mirah Sand, OTR/L (they/she) approaches pelvic floor therapy through a trauma-informed biopsychosocial lens, meaning that they see all bodies as connected to a vast web of multifaceted stories and contexts.
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist Alex Papale, DPT is a nonbinary practitioner in the Back Bay neighborhood of Boston. I don’t know Justine Beauchamp, DPT personally, but I’ve heard good things and that she accepts insurance(!) but does not work with penises.
Dr. Shemeka Thorpe’s homepage has a link at the bottom to a list of BIPOC pelvic floor physical therapists
Professional Cuddlist and Consent Educator Nellie Wilson is a great resource if you’re in Western MA.
Therapists (I cannot guarantee availability or whether they can accept insurance)
Dr. Ruthie (they/them) in Guelph, Ontario
Aida Manduley (they/them) in Jamaica Plain, MA
Brands of sex supplies I wholeheartedly endorse (uncompensated)
Lubricants – Hathor Original Lubricant Pure, Sliquid Silk, Slippery Stuff Gel, Wet Uranus Silicone, Swiss Navy Silicone (my favorite lube bottle design)
Toys (whole brand unless linked to a specific toy) – nJoy, Tantus, New York Toy Collective, Aslan Leather, SpareParts HardWear, Babes N’ Horny, Le Wand , Fun Factory, Rocks Off , and We-Vibe
Adult product retailers that support feminist-values, identify body-safe materials, and are safer alternatives to Amazon
Articles and videos on somatic sex education (more to come)
A series of blog posts on Elements of Embodiment for trans folks
How Sexological Bodywork can be helpful to trans people
Your sexuality professional has ADHD and why this works (Someone else wrote this, but WOW it feels written about me!)
Sexual Intimacy with Chronic Pelvic or Genital Pain – tips, toys, and THC
Why couples should learn about erotic massage and how to touch mindfully
How and why to give an anal and rectal massage
Using Surrogate Partner Therapy in Counseling: Treatment Considerations (page 4 specifically addresses Sexological Bodywork)
Why not to buy sex toys from Amazon (old article, but there is no evidence that Amazon has changed their policies. If anything, the problem of counterfeit sex toys has gotten worse over time.)